When I was clueless about what I wanted and was waiting for inspiration to come, I tried to look for ideas online. Most of the suggestions and themes were cute but they were all geared towards a traditional, formal wedding. Everything looked so BEIGE and boring. We’re going to have two weddings… the first will be the simple civil ceremony in Chris’ hometown and the second, after 2-3 years, will be the Catholic wedding in a church in my hometown so my whole family can see their eldest daughter/niece/granddaughter get married. (Yep! I’m the eldest in my generation in both sides of the family. Imagine the pressure to excel. Haha!)
Although we’re determined to have a very down-to-earth first wedding to save expenses, I didn’t think that cheapie-cheapie equaled boring. A small, casual wedding can be fun and cool. More importantly, a wedding should reflect the personalities and tastes of the persons getting married instead of being just a generic one.
Imagine my delight when I stumbled on Rock ‘n Roll bride. 😀 At first glance, it seems to be all about wildly dyed hair, tattoos and grunge. But, upon browsing, the blog is all about making your wedding your own. I looked at submitted pictures of urban weddings, vintage weddings, farm weddings, music-inspired weddings, theatre weddings, Marie Antoinette weddings, etc. The list is endless! The ideas were so original and the couples obviously put their individual stamp all over the celebrations. The photos are so inspirational! It’s a great collection of photos with real people and not stiff models from a magazine.
That’s when I decided that Chris and I are going to have a rock and roll wedding. It’s not about electric guitars or loud music but it should be a wedding that celebrates who we are. We’re both easygoing, relaxed persons with unique interests so why do we have to do what everyone else does? We decided on a very casual, boho, vintage, DIY wedding. No stiff, icky wedding for us.
Even if you’re not a bride or groom-to-be, I’d recommend reading through the RnRB blog.
Speaking of Chris, he is so funny about the whole planning the wedding stuff. He had a major meltdown at first since he did this twice before (one ex-fiancee and one ex-wife) and they were both terrible Bridezillas and he was afraid that I’d turn into one. I told him that I wasn’t exactly the prima donna type who would cut him off from all the planning. (“Dear, all you have to do is show up.”) It’s his wedding, too, after all.
He’s so surprised to find that he’s enjoying it. 🙂
He promised to mess up my face with wedding cake icing after the reception. But he forgot who’s making the wedding cake: me. And if there’s something that I know how to make, it’s practically mess-free yummy icing that’s superglued to the cake. He’d have to mash the whole cake all over me to get the desired effect. And even after that, it would be easy to clean off. Hehehe. 😉